Here is a question from one of our readers:
Love your Greek traditions blog.
I have a question that I can’t find the answer to and the oldies in the family seem to be at odds with each other over what’s right and not. I wanted to use my wedding veil to be a part of the lambatha for our baby’s baptism. It got a little damaged at the edges at the wedding thanks to my bracelet catching on it and it’s made from nice touli that would be elegant on a lambatha.
Is this, as far as you know, ok to do? My mother says no, cause it’s bad luck, my aunty says yes why not it’s better than leaving it unused in the cupboard.
Thanks in advance for you point of view.”
Thank you for your email and your lovely feedback about my blog.
Here is my opinion:
The Christening lambatha is supposed to be purchased by the God Parents or sponsors of the baby/adult that is being baptised. So, technically it should be the choice of the God Parent. Here is a list of all the items that the God Parent should bring along to a baptism: What Should God Parents Buy For A Christening?
Having said that, a lot of people these days will involve the parents of the child in the purchasing decisions so that the candle, bombonerie and other items match the theme of the party.
From a religious perspective, candles should not be decorated at all. When I was planning my son’s christening, I received a checklist from the Church with information about the christening and it said “do not decorate the candle as it is distracting’.
I’m in the business of selling wedding and christening candles, so of course, my candle was decorated! Every christening that I have ever attended have always had beautifully decorated candles.
Decorating the Christening candle is a cultural tradition rather than a religious tradition. For this reason you are free to do what you like.
For my son’s christening, we used the tulle that came from the box that his outfit was sent it. It was lovely tulle and it worked with our theme. As your aunty says there is not point leaving the tulle unused in the cupboard. It’s a shame to let beautiful things go to waste.
If you would like to do something special with your veil, I can suggest a few other ideas:
- Donate the veil to Angel Gowns – a voluntary organisation that uses old wedding dresses to make outfits for babies who have left this world too early.
- Sell the veil online – gumtree or ebay.
- Give the veil to a friend or relative getting married – it can be their ‘something borrowed’.
- Cut the tulle up and use it for bombonerie.
- Keep it in your cupboard. Try it on once a year on your wedding anniversary and reminisce your wedding day.
Do what you think is best.
Do you have any other suggestions or ideas?
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Sia Aristidou is fascinated by the rituals and traditions celebrated in Greek culture. She writes about love, marriage, family and tradition and sells beautiful handmade wedding gifts at the Greek Wedding Shop.
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