Can you Baptise both a Boy and a Girl?
The traditional answer is no.
If you have Christened boys then you “should” only christen boys and if you have christened girls, then you “should” only christen girls.
This is because children who are baptised by the same person are considered to be brothers and sisters from an Orthodox perspective. Legally in most parts of the world, brothers and sisters are not allowed marry to one another. The same rule is applied in the Orthodox Church.
But what happens if a God brother and God sister fall in love and want to get married?
Can God Brothers and God Sisters Become Husband and Wife?
I have heard of one example where two people fell in love and planed to be married. They discovered that they were in fact God brother and God sister with the same God parent. The couple had to seek permission from the Arch Bishop before they were allowed to be married in the Church. Of course every situation is different and permission has only be granted to a few couples.
Can You Be A God Parent To Both A Girl and A Boy?
There are many different situations in which you may feel obligated to baptise both a boy and a girl. For example:
- You might decide to be a God parent before the baby is born and you don’t know the sex yet
- You are the Koumbaros or Koumbara to both sets of parents
- You really want to accept the role
I encourage you to speak to your local Priest to help you to make the right decision for you in your own situation.
“According to a decision of the Holy and Sacred Synod of the Ecumenical Patriarchate (Prot. No. 7 – dated Jan 12, 2011), marriages between a couple unrelated by blood and sharing the same godparent are unreservedly permissible and unhindered. The “tradition” of being a godparent to only males or only females stems from a misinterpretation of the 53 canon of the Penthekte Council in Trullo.”
Have you Christened any children before? What did you do?
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